By Majid Morcelli
San Francisco- Young Moroccan men have been tainted as predators in virtual chat rooms for preying on much older, unattractive, or overweight American women in order to acquire permanent residency in the US. However, it is futile to put the blame on the immigrant, the Arab, the Muslim, and of course the young Moroccan men for the failed adventures these women experience.
No one takes pause to think about these young men who are also victims of these women who grossly miscalculate that they can snatch these individuals and marry them after few months of virtual small talk. To their chagrin, when these men arrive in the US, they realize they are merely exotic property of these women after few months of living under the same roof.
It should not be challenging to understand that most of these relationships are bound to fail. The women involved in this wishful-thinking marriage intentionally omit that in order for a union with partner from another culture to succeed, there must be some commonalities, which, in most of these cases, are non-existent.
50% of all marriages in America end in divorce; how can these women expect to do better with someone who is unlike anyone they have ever met?
Many say that these young Moroccan men sweet-talk their “prey” and only tell them what sounds like music to their ears. But no one mentions that these women are not revealing the true intent of desiring to unite with a much younger mate from an entirely different culture, or about the abuse, the insults, and the threats that these culturally-shocked men endure during these all-but-certain-to-fail marriages.
These young Moroccan men leave everything behind, and to their immense dismay, discover that they are no more than an imported property to be controlled, or else they’ll be sent home. Even worse, they would be deported and portrayed as losers for not being able to make it in the US, when all of those who left before them have succeeded.
If these older or unattractive women are going to bring these young Moroccan men to the US to enslave them, denigrate them, threaten them with deportation on a daily basis, and subject them to constant humiliation, they will not be compensated in a way that these young Moroccan men remain their forever slaves.
When you have two extremely different entities wanting to accomplish what they have not been able to do in their respective cultures, or in their economical situation, the odds will undoubtedly be against them.
Next time, and prior to scapegoating these young Moroccan men, let us remember that it takes two to tango. When the foundation of marriage is vague or absent, marriage should not take place. These women cannot dance around the self-evident facts; if they do, they have no one to blame but themselves, and they should learn from what they convince themselves as not their fault.
Edited by Katrina Bushko
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